Marriage

I had a dream about a wedding I attended. “Marriage doesn’t work in the world today, its an institution that is in decay” – Bradley Nowell

Why is it the divorce rate climbs and family units are destroyed at an ever growing rate? Greed? Lust? Ego? The fact is there are many reasons and most are due to a lack of communication and understanding from the spouse’s point of view. Men often wake up ten or so years in understanding they had little choice in the course of their life due to their natural need for sustainable sexual relations. Women wake up ten years in, understanding their spouse has little interest in their needs and start wondering if they could have made a better choice, or if they should have married the last guy. The emotional cords attached to previous relationships are always there regardless of whether you wish to acknowledge them or not. Our experience is our greatest teacher and we carry these experiences with us into our new path whatever it may be.

The family unit is becoming something of the past. Both parents are working and there is no time for love and support to flourish in that environment. Children are raised by a marketing machine designed to isolate them from others and fill them with insecurity. There is nothing wrong with you! You are a fantastic powerful beautiful human being and destiny is well within your control. This machine (TV) has only increased its efficiency as many adult minds are paid to dedicate their lives to improve it. This system of cyclical consumption is disgusting, outdated and simply not necessary.  (see http://storyofstuff.com)

Women often fall into the trap of the false sense of security that is money. Money is a tool and in my opinion not necessary for a healthy society. If the money leaves will the love still be there? Sadly enough many people go about their entire life experience without fully understanding what love is.

Men are shown that the pursuit of expanding their wealth will make them happy. Unfortunately this could not be further from the truth. After observing some very powerful wealthy people I have noticed none of them have a true sense of happiness. If you attach your happiness to things you will never be happy. Love is all that is necessary to be happy and the love of money will hinder your spiritual growth. This life is not a competition and you define your own happiness. Seeking external acknowledgment that you are doing the right thing is often a sign you are doing just the opposite. Your heart is never wrong and if you understand how to listen to it nothing is more fulfilling.

Ego plays a huge role in the disintegration of relationships. Many people have difficulty being criticized or admitting they are, and can be, wrong. I enjoy being wrong as being wrong allows you to learn something new. I am no better or worse than any other human being on the planet. We are all pretty much the same. There is no difference between a busker and a C.E.O in my opinion. The only difference is how easily they set aside what their heart wants in pursuit of what society tells them they want. You can have whatever you want. The power of your mind is unstoppable. Often this universal law is executed for the wrong reasons. You can never control the actions of another person nor should you. The only actions you can control are your own. Exercising tempered reason often resolves any conflict between any parties. If the issues are not resolved then it played out this way for a reason and you have something to learn from the experience.

I found it interesting that most corporations have the behavioral patterns of a psychopath. (See definition http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychopathy) If these institutions that lead our society in providing us sustenance carry these traits, how could it not carry into our daily lives? It is interesting to note that the psychopath has “many short term marital relations”, and this could very well be the cause of our increasing divorce rate.

A sad state of affairs the world is in but certainly not beyond recovery. All we need is to feel a little more pain and suffering as our brothers and sisters feel in the third world. Given the current state of the economy in the western worlds, I would say the time for change approaches. Keeping everyone docile and complacent is key to maintaining the institutions that rule us. After you take away the things that make us self-absorbed and languid, the truth will become evident. “None but ourselves can free our minds” – Bob Marley

However, it is astonishing to note that whether lasting relationships are in decline because of greed, or ego or lust, no one seems to understand what could fix it. What emotion could cause people to put themselves into a position of vulnerability that cannot be shared by corporations or machines? People are creatures of love, but are being taught by a society of psychopaths, that it’s weak and foolish. Of everything humans are capable of, love is a fantastic thing that never dies.

To anyone that is upset by the things that I say, do note that you are judging yourself and seeking justification for your own behavior. However while you are entitled to your opinion, so shall I, be entitled to mine.

“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society” – Jiddu Krishnamurti